Graduation is not only a ceremony during which you are announced a graduate and given a diploma. There is far more than just a ceremony.
Have you ever looked at your graduation, with your parents’ eyes and heart?
Of course you haven’t. It’s your day and you think that all the attention should be concentrated on you. And you are right.
But just stop for a minute and look at them. What do you see? Two people making graduation cards for you or helping you to prepare for your graduation party.
Look deeper. And you will see two people who are doing their best to look happy and delighted for you. And they are. But if they are that happy, why do they cry? Now that you see their tears, I am sure you know the reason, too. They understand, rather, they feel some mixture of pain and joy deep inside which cannot be interpreted. And I am not that wise either.
I remember that on my graduation party my mother kissed me and through her warm tears told me that she was very proud of me. I thanked her and joined my classmates. But at night when I put my head on my pillow I recalled her face, her eyes, and I realized that she was afraid of something. Up to now I haven’t understood what the fear was, but I am certain of one thing–I am not her little baby, now I am her friend.
You should know that I am not trying to convince you that graduation is not a good thing. No! It is one of the best moments that every person witnesses in his or her life. That feeling is really great! You clearly see your future like you are standing in a field of snow and then you feel the sense of responsibility. You make plans and set goals for you and your family. And all that for the first time and with the most care, love and confidence.
Be sure that your parents see that and you can’t imagine the sense of relief and anxiety that they are experiencing at that moment. Just try to pay more attention to them, because at the moment they are helping you with those graduation cards, they may be feeling like they would when helping you prepare your wedding cards.
I don’t know what words can better describe their feelings, but I am sure of one thing–to understand your parents, you should raise children yourself.
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